HOW often do you stop to consider an alternate view?
How much time and space do you allow yourself to see the others' perspective?
Could this be a goal for the new year?
When we believe something deeply we tend to put all our eggs in the one 'thinking' basket.
Seldom do we allow ourselves the opportunity to imagine the other person's angle or position, particularly in an argument or debate.
We may find ourselves in this situation when we label and judge people also.
For example, I am incredibly angry with a family member for something they did.
I cannot begin to imagine why they would do such a thing. Ordinarily I might resent them and withdraw from them, after all, they hurt me.
But what if I take a moment to see things from their perspective?
Imagine perspectives as many drawers in a cabinet.
IN OTHER NEWS:
Each drawer is full of different things. Some drawers contain useful and practical things, some contain precious keepsakes, some hold important paperwork and one may even hold all the bits and pieces that don't really have a "home".
If you were to take it in turn to react and respond from each drawer, would you hold the same opinion or position?
r might you see things slightly differently from each drawer?
If you responded from the precious keepsakes drawer, would you think the same way as you would from the bits and pieces drawer?
This simple analogy demonstrates how differently two (or more) people see things depending on where they come from, what they hold dear, what their experiences are and what they value.
If we can jump out of our comfy drawer and step into a different one, maybe we could see for ourselves what the other was thinking and feeling and why they did what they did.
This may help us not to judge them and most importantly, not to hold resentment.